Have a goal to be more confident?

I hear you! We all have times when we’re just not feeling as confident as we used to, or we think life would be better if we were more confident. When you need a confidence boost, there are things you can be doing in your day-to-day that will help that can be easy and enjoyable. 

Start by leveraging your strengths (rather than focusing on the areas of weakness to improve) 

Marcus Buckingham is the world’s most prominent researcher on strengths and leadership at work, and he defines a strength as “any activity that makes you feel strong. And a weakness is an activity that makes you feel weak. So even if you’re good at it, if it drains you, that’s a weakness.”

Consider what comes easily to you? What are the things that make you lose track of time? Reflecting on this is a good starting point to leverage your strengths. 

Focus on the projects that highlight those strengths at work and seek out projects and collaborations. At home, do more things that bring out your creative side, the things that add joy to your day.

The things that make you feel strong will help increase your confidence that can and will thread through into other areas of your life.

Build your support peer group (for your professional and personal life) 

A small intimate group of supportive people will help you check in on how great you already are and boost your confidence by showing up and being you. As a coach, I see it when a group of like-minded women come together and share openly about how they’re feeling; instantaneously, they feel better about themselves and more confident of keeping going with their goals and dreams, even tackle a challenge they’re facing. 

There are many ways to build your support group within my coaching community. For example, we have a Mastermind group, group coaching, and host Masterclasses. Investing in these support groups is game-changing for your confidence.

Set an achievable goal (and will push you outside your comfort zone)

Goal setting with practice helps you find that you can achieve more than you thought you could. 

Choose a goal-setting method that will set up the foundations for you to succeed. By following a principle that has proven to help increase chances of success, the entire process is more rewarding and ultimately more enjoyable. 

The five-goal setting principles that can improve our chances of success: 

• Clarity
• Challenge
• Commitment 
• Feedback
• Task complexity 

(Grant, 2012; Locke & Latham, 1984, 1990; Latham & Locke, 1984)

It’s essential to focus on the process – not only the endpoint of the goal, especially when building confidence – confidence increases as you work towards creating and achieving something. 

Choose a goal that excites you and has a strong meaning – know your why. And create a ‘plan’ on the things that will be required of you to achieve it and how you will achieve it. 

Make your goals S.M.A.R.T. – Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely as a guide for setting your goals. This method incorporates the above principles and will help you focus, enhance productivity, boost confidence, and increase commitment. 

If the thought of doing any of these things alone feels overwhelming to start, having the support of a one-to-one coach will help you. 

I specialise in helping women create positive change in their professional and personal life – confidence increases during this process, and goals for success. If you’re ready to make this change with a coach, please email heidi@heidijonescoaching.com to set up your Discovery call.