Ahhh we’ve all been there, so many ideas in our head and none of them come to fruition!
Instead we keep busy with work and the kids, get distracted by finances and day-to-day living, resulting in us putting those health & fitness goals, exciting business ideas, and big dreams on hold – we literally hold ourselves back and watch the weeks, months and years fly by along with the belief, confidence, excitement and drive we started with!
What a sad reality it is that so many women are holding back sharing their talents, skills, and strengths from the world!
We all know that it’s easier to stay the same, to keep within our comfort zones, it’s the main culprit for holding back on starting, even if we know it’s good for us!
There are 2 things you need to do if you’re holding back on starting:
There’s a visual I use within my coaching to help my clients identify their starting point. This helps them gain clarity on what steps they need to take and how prepared they are to start.
More often than not, we set overly high expectations for ourselves which results in never starting. This exercise helps my clients build a starting point with realistic expectations and a clear path for progress and success, making it much easier to start, no matter how big or audacious the goal!
It’s called the comfort-stretch-panic model developed by psychologists Robert. M. Yerks and John. Dillingham Dodson in 1908.
I first encountered it when preparing for a race. The comfort-stretch-panic model is used a lot in run coaching to help improve performance over time and keep a level of consistent progress during training.
Now, I prefer to use it to help and empower clients to start taking action and turn ideas into reality. It’s a tool my Mastermind members refer to time and time again to help keep them moving forward and not staying stagnant or stuck.
The comfort zone is where your ability and skills match the level of challenge in a situation or activity. You’re fully in control of the situation and the steps or actions it involves. And, overtime, with repeated practice, you may also develop mastery in specific skills.
The stretch zone is when the level of challenge in a situation or activity slightly exceeds your ability to handle it. This shift in balance makes you feel alert and excited, but also a bit nervous at the same time. These are the goals where there is a marginal gap to close between your current abilities and the level of challenge. Starting in the stretch zone is an opportunity to step outside your comfort zone and grow. This is why the stretch zone is considered ideal for new learning to take place – especially with the right support system and people around you.
The panic zone is when the level of challenge in a situation or activity goes way beyond your ability to handle it effectively. The action to accomplish throws you into a spiral of anxiety, fear and self-doubt. It is why the panic zone is considered least conducive for new learning and growth.
Often when we’re holding back on starting a goal or implementing an idea into action we’re starting from a place of panic:
“What if I fail?”,
“I’m not good enough”,
“I don’t know how to start”.
To change the narrative and to help you take a step forward, I suggest breaking down the action/ goal/ idea into smaller ‘stretch’ steps.
Two examples using the comfort-stretch-panic visual tool:
Things to remember when using this model:
Personal growth is a process and it’s not going to be easy, if it was everyone would be chasing goals and achieving their dreams.
It’s a choice and a privilege to get uncomfortable doing things that excite you, bring more vibrancy, joy and success into your life, don’t let it be YOU to be holding you back!
Use the template below to map out the steps for you to START!
This is for you if…
You want to see a change in the direction of your life this year.
You have an idea of what you want to change/ create/ accomplish, but no idea how to start.
You have a goal you’ve started but haven’t fully committed to the process because you’re afraid of failing.
You need a support network outside of your ‘inner circle’ to gain perspective and to be held accountable.
If you’re ready to stop talking yourself out of doing the things you want to do –
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU!
What you get…
For 10 weeks we’ll work together to align your actions and ideas to ensure you’re making progress towards your vision and goals.
I’ve helped women time and time again go from not knowing where to start when it comes to change to making the progress they’ve always made. Having a coach helps you focus on exactly what you need to be doing and when, commitment and accountability and support when times get tough – helping you succeed!
The price of this program is 2850AED
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