The first thing to consider is how do you cope with change?
Often, making a change in any area of life can bring up feelings of fear, overwhelm, and self-doubt. But, of course, it’s much easier to ignore this thought and feeling, get your head down, and go about your day. Even better, to distract yourself by delving into work projects, having fun over the weekends, and binge-watching Netflix during the week – don’t worry, we’ve all been there!
However, from personal experience, I know that feeling – this internal pull to change or do something different in either your personal or professional life – doesn’t go away. It will continue to show up in your life at the most inconvenient times, making you question all your life choices!
If you have this internal pull that something needs to change in your life as a coach, there are three things I recommend to help you to uncover what that is:
Show yourself compassion and hear yourself out; write down the thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing around change rather than ignore or keep yourself distracted any longer.
Ask yourself what’s working right now and what’s not working right now. This journaling prompt will help you uncover the areas of your life that need to move in a different direction.
Brainstorm what you want, try not to hold back on the ‘what if’s or ‘I can’ts’ or ‘I shoulds,’ just freestyle it and write everything that comes to mind. We can often say what we don’t want in life but can’t articulate what we want, and if you can’t name it, you can’t claim it! Consider what you want your life to look like in 1, 5, and 10 years and write down what comes up for you.
If forward-thinking 1-10 years is too overwhelming at the moment, start with point number 3:
Draw three circles on an A4 piece of paper, and write in the first circle ‘Personal,’ in the second circle ‘Professional,’ and in the third circle ‘Health.’ Then, in or around the circle, write down your ideal for each of the three elements in your life. This exercise is a great way to uncover what you want and where you can create positive change in your life.
Do you have this internal pull for change in your life?
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