Do you relate?
You’re in the job you worked hard to get – and now you feel that you want to do something different?
Or perhaps you’re living a good life but not feeling a sense of purpose or meaning?
Or you have a passion you would love to explore and can’t stop thinking about it?
Or you know that you need to change if you’re going to live a long healthy life?!
If you relate to any of the above, you’ll know this feeling, the internal pull that something needs to change in your life, doesn’t go away; whatever you do to, ignore it!
Naturally, we can’t always jump onto something new or make a drastic change in our life; however, we can delve deeper and use this feeling to find out what’s really going on and what is within our control to change.
Change is uncomfortable, and we naturally sway towards staying in our comfort zones. However, to grow and evolve, we need to get uncomfortable sometimes!
Consider how you cope with change? So often, making a change in any area of life is uncomfortable and can bring up feelings of fear and self-doubt. Starting from a place of fear and self-doubt will keep you stuck. It will show up in your life by procrastinating on everything, never feeling good enough, quick fix distractions, spending money, and FOMO – filling up every bit of time you have as a distraction to avoid your fears and what’s really going on.
So, I’m sharing three tools from my coaching toolkit to help you uncover what you can do with this internal feeling so you can stop feeling stuck and move positively forward with your life.
Stop distracting yourself with Netflix, being too busy, or partying all weekend. Instead, start asking yourself ‘what’s working and what’s not working right now?’ to help you uncover your life areas that need or want to change. Then, to make it easy, break up the areas of your life into three buckets:
Bucket 1: professional life/career
Bucket 2: personal life
Bucket 3: health and wellbeing
At this point, you want to check in with your values and priorities. Are these at the forefront of your day-to-day decisions, or are they being cast aside for other things?
Coaching tip: if you have no idea what your values are, start by listing the top 5 things in life that are most important to you.
Consider what you want your life to look like in 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years. Focus on how you want to feel and how you want to spend your days. Again, you can break this up into the three buckets listed in point 1. Then, check-in and see if what you’re doing now is aligned with what you want your future life to look like. This step will help you uncover areas of your life that you can start to change.
Coaching tip: practice visualisation to help you envision your future.
Consider your ideal life from the perspective of your professional life, personal life, and your health. Writing down the specifics will help you unpick the areas of your current life you can start to make changes – from getting a promotion to eating more healthy meals.
These exercises help you delve deeper into what you want for your life and help break it down into manageable actions you can take without making any drastic changes. Start with what’s easy to build momentum, and from there, you’ll start to build the confidence to keep going.
These are great exercises to do by yourself, and it’s a great way to start coaching. By sharing your answers with a coach, you can indulge in talking about your future vision and then have the support to start working out the steps you can take to make it happen alongside having the accountability to go with it!
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